Destiny : A predefined directive or a matter of choices?
Over the past couple of days I came across a number of quotes from a number of great men who are supposed to be learned too. The fact that most of them had pretty much the same thing to say which if needs to be stated in a few lines would be ‘Destiny is what comes along with your existence. Irrespective of what you do, irrespective of what you avoid, everything that happens is destined to happen.’ Now even though at first this does appear to be the way things function in our reality. Who knows what the very next moment will have in store for us. May be this post too, I am destined to write a post on destiny but the thing that I certainly fail to understand about our existence is the fact that in a world where nothing is permanent (as a great man once said, ‘Change is the only thing constant in this world’) how can destiny of a person be a predefined directive, a predefined path that he or she is supposed to follow?
Now, destiny might function at various levels too and the very first level has been stated by Sigmund Freud in his three word quote “Anatomy is destiny.” Now nothing can beat the trueness of those three words. The way you are built, a human or a dog is the very first level of destiny. We can call that destiny for that’s something we don’t have any control over. The way we are made is our first level of destiny and I do believe none of you would have a problem in agreeing to that. Your job would be to load stuff on your back and travel miles or be a man’s best friend or be a man, it all depends on the first level of destiny.
Now, if one comes to think of it, the second level of destiny would be about your mentality, the way you think and the way you perceive things. Most of us are lucky enough to have seen a family and the way we think, the way we behave, all the etiquettes that we imbibe, everything that we learn in our early days which in some way shapes the way we are going to think and act throughout our life would depend on the kind of family we are born in. I am not necessarily saying that some will have the right kind of upbringing and some won’t. There is nothing necessarily right or wrong it is all about your perception towards things that makes things right and wrong in your head. So the second level of destiny would be the family you are born in and you certainly don’t have control over that either.
Now, coming to the third and the level of destiny that I really fail to pick up is about what you are going to do throughout your life. The fact that the way you are born, the family you are born in and the etiquettes that you imbibe all are part of destiny doesn’t mean everything after that too is. In a world where change is the only constant how can someone’s destiny apart from the above defined first two levels be constant? It certainly has to be relative and suspect to change just like everything else is. To me, destiny is more about the choices you make. Once you are born as a human, have already learnt the basics of living and have a brain good enough to think, the choices you make and the path you lead isn’t necessarily shown by your destiny. Destiny presents you with choices. Which path you choose entirely depends on you. All of us in our lives have come across situations where we are supposed to take decisions which in some way big or small, change or shape our future. Destiny is not what makes you choose the path but it is that presents you with choices. Consider destiny to be functioning on a single person in two parallel universes and depending on the choice you make when you are presented with them, you choose the universe you are going to be in. Of course, making choices isn’t a one-time thing and you do it a number of times throughout your life but every time you do, other than shaping your life, you are shaping your destiny too! Destiny certainly is relative to the choices you make! Of course, you might fail several times. Of course, you might regret decisions that you make but you certainly don’t have the right to blame it on destiny.
So destiny, if one comes to think of it, is a bit of both. At the first two levels, destiny is all about a predefined directive while everything that happens beyond those two levels entirely depends on the choices that you make throughout your lifetime. So next time you have to make a choice, choose wisely and give shape to your own destiny!
I sign off with a line from an unknown wise man, “Always remember that one day your life is flash in front of your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching.”